If you have recently just gone through a breakup, one of the things that you are going to need to think about is whether you should continue to talk to your ex boyfriend. This decision can be a very difficult one, but it may determine whether or not you will be able to win him back over time.
In general, it is best to stop talking to an ex after you have broken up. This will give you both a little bit of time to reflect on the relationship on your own. If there is a possibility that your relationship is worth saving, it is likely that both you and your ex will be able to realize it during this time. When you continue to talk to one another, you are not allowing yourselves to see if you really miss one another. Knowing if you do can help determine if it is a good idea to get back together or not.
Remember that there is a possibility that your ex boyfriend may not miss you after he has reflected on the breakup. Your ex may decide that breaking up with you was the best decision that he ever made. By not talking, you will be preparing yourself to move on. Moving on can be much more difficult if you are still talking to your ex-boyfriend on a regular basis.
Keep in mind that every situation is circumstantial. For example, if you see your ex boyfriend at work or school, then it is going to be difficult to avoid talking to each other at all times. Even if you do see each other, the best thing that you can do is avoid giving your ex boyfriend any type of special treatment. Act the same way towards him as you would towards a friend or acquaintance. Remember that treating your ex boyfriend in a special way is a privilege that is something he should no longer have since he broke up with you.
Many people have a hard time talking rationally after they have been broken up with. Until you know how to talk to your ex without throwing a tantrum, it is best to avoid doing so. During the first few weeks after your breakup, you may have questions. If your ex boyfriend says that he wants to speak with in person about the relationship, it is acceptable to ask questions that you may have during this time. A good alternative would be to send any questions you may be wondering in an email.
You should NEVER be the first one to call or text message your ex boyfriend after you have broken up. If he wants to get into contact with you using one of those methods, it is one thing to answer the phone – which is something that you may want to think twice about – but you should never be the first one to contact him. This will make you look desperate, and you don’t want to be the one to call or text message him if he really doesn’t want to hear from you at all.
Also remember that if talking to your ex is preventing you from being happy or moving on, then it is important to stop contact immediately. You are never going to be able to find someone new if you talk about your ex frequently. If you feel that talking to him on a daily basis is the only reason that you still have not let go, then it is a good idea to at least try to stop to see how it feels. An improvement in your mood can indicate that not talking to your ex any more can be a good idea.