There are many reasons that an ex boyfriend may not want to see you. Depending on the specific circumstances, he may or may not let you know why he doesn’t care to see you at the moment. If he doesn’t, then you are probably left wondering why. After all, you would give just about anything to see him if you had the chance…so why doesn’t he want to see you? Here are some common reasons an ex may not want to see you.

Self Reflection

Maybe your ex feels as though he hasn’t been able to think about the situation enough. Before he makes the decision to see you and either have you convince him to get back together or complicate the situation even more, he wants some time to think about it himself. He may need to understand what went wrong with the relationship before he can even think about seeing you face-to-face. Self reflection of a breakup is important. If your ex says this is the reason, believe him. It’s not easy to admit, and necessary for most people to do.

Your Self Reflection

If you and your ex boyfriend have argued about the breakup at all, this could have something to do with why he might not want to see you. Although you shouldn’t agree with things that you do not believe in, fighting can be a sign of defiance or even denial about the end of a relationship. Your ex may not think that you have come to terms with the breakup yet, or he may feel that you haven’t been able to give it enough reflection yet.

Pain

Your ex boyfriend could be taking the breakup much more difficultly than you are imagining. He could be afraid that seeing you could bring up some of the emotions that he is trying to bottle inside at the moment. If you have done anything to hurt your ex boyfriend, this also could cause him to be experiencing pain that may cause him to not want to see you. Cheating is a good example of this type of pain.

Moving On

Although you don’t want to think about it, there is a chance that your ex may want to move on or is already in the process of moving on. Once he is over you, seeing you is going to be the last thing on his mind. If he is trying to get over the relationship and find his way in the world of dating other girls, this could be why he doesn’t want to see you.

Now, keep in mind that there is a problem if your ex says that he wants to get back together with you, but still refuses to see you. If he is really serious about getting back together, then he should be trying to find a way to make the relationship work. Not seeing you, especially if months go by, is a problem. When this happens, you should consider whether he still really wants to be with you or if he is just saying he does.